Too Comfortable?

Recently someone posed a question to me – should I be living for happiness or contentment?  Without thinking, I answered, “happiness of course!


It seems contentment has become somewhat of a disease, at least in the United States.  I see people everyday – traveling down the same packed freeway, going to the same office, following the same routine and then going home at night exhausted.  That doesn’t sound like happiness to me.  It sounds like comfortable.  We get comfortable in a routine – it feels safe, there is no challenge and therefore no fear.  We are content – and we survive.  The problem with that?

We are meant to THRIVE not just survive.

If you google the following quote by O. Woodward, “Success begins on the Other Side of Your Comfort Zone” you will get thousands of results.  It is an often quoted phrase for bloggers, motivational speakers and business coaches.  That is because it is true!   We need to do something different, change something, take action . . . . .step out of our comfort zone . . . . . in order to achieve anything.

So what stops us?  What makes us accept comfortable over happy?


I think we have become so programmed to accept the status quo and seek contentment that we have lost the motivation to pursue anything more.  It is scary to take risks – like quitting a job that makes you miserable, moving to a new place just because you want to experience a new environment, or approaching a stranger “just to talk”.  But you know what?   People who are successful in life are people who refuse to let fear stop them from anything. They are adventurers, never afraid to try something new.

They Aren’t Afraid to Fail

I have always told my kids – if you want something – go after it.  The only person who is really a failure is the person who never tries.  (I don’t know who first said that, but my mother used to say it to me all the time.)  If there is something you really want to do – you research it, you dream about it, you talk to others about it.  You get excited about the prospect of doing something new!  Then one or more people start talking about the negatives – “oh, that will not work”doubt 

“oh that sounds risky”,wontwork

disapproval“oh I would be too afraid to do that”.

And there you go – now you start to worry – fear creeps in and you give up on that new adventure.  You probably think about that every once in a while and wonder – “but what if I had tried?”

I want you to write these statements on a note card.  Post that card on your bathroom mirror, on your computer at work, somewhere you will see it EVERYDAY.

I deserve to be happy!

I was created to live in abundance!

Contentment is a comfortable life, but I want more!

FEAR is only False Evidence Appearing Real and I will not let it stop me from living the life I dream of!

I am great!  I choose to have a positive attitude today and I am making a difference in this world!

You can add any additional statements that you feel motivated by.  Now, you have to read these statements, out loud, with conviction and believe them!  Do it everyday!  Do it twice, three times a day!   I know you will notice a difference in your life!    Please – come back and let me know if you try my suggestion and what happened.   Take care – live life to the fullest, always seek happiness and encourage others.  Success is yours, if you go after it.  Now go out there and be a role model for someone else!

Remember – you are great!  Thrive, don’t just survive – deb

Millennials and Success

I have noticed recently that the younger people, the generation termed “Millennials” have a different attitude about work, success and how they want to live their lives.


They have learned that working for a boss,  who doesn’t appreciate you and may very well lay you off at anytime, isn’t the way to succeed.  Success isn’t always about money and material things.  It is about time for oneself, travel, enjoying life, building a family and actually staying home and raising your children.

To that end – people are now much more open to alternative ways of making money, different types of careers and especially – being an entrepreneur.   We are beginning to see more and more people start their own business.   These people know – you cannot trade time for money and ever come out ahead.  There are only so many hours in a day, you are just one person and no one is really going to pay you what you are worth.  Spending 4 years at a University is quite expensive and most cannot even afford it.  Then, you graduate and are even assured of a job in the field you studied.  But you can be assured that those student loan payments will start coming due.

Over the years we have seen a drastic change in the U.S.A. – the land of opportunity.  In the past, family businesses flourished – they were the majority.  Then big business began to grow, and grow and force the family owned businesses out.  Big business has much deeper pockets and influence.  Now very few start up businesses succeed. The products offered by these big businesses are often made in other countries.  In my opinion, the products are cheap, not good for us and everyone knows it.  Yet, we keep shopping and buying and making the rich man richer while the poor get poorer.  Did you realize that the middle class is actually shrinking?  

The costs to start a business are quite high.  There is a significant learning curve and not much support.    So what do we do if we are sick of working for someone else, sick of the hours and how they limit our enjoyment of life?  What do we do if we just have an entrepreneurial spirit – we just want to own our own business?  We know there has got to be a better way. . . . .

Now the “Millennials” that I referred to – they have open minds and look for opportunities.  They aren’t afraid to work hard . . . .IF . .there is a big payout at the end.  They see the potential in Network Marketing!   I have watched young women get so excited by the opportunity to own a business.  They find products they love and tell everyone about them.   These people are excited!  They share the business opportunity with anyone who will listen.  If someone isn’t interested then they just move on to someone else.  It seems to be a new mindset.  There is another way out there and we have a job to let everyone know about it.  It is like a huge movement – people taking back their lives, realizing they were meant for so much more and pursuing their dreams.

Social media and technology have made Network Marketing much easier.  I am able to run my international business from anywhere in the world.  All I need is my phone, computer and internet access.  I host meetings in my living room – in my pajamas – with 25-50 people around the world discussing our team activities and sharing our achievements.  I can introduce someone I have never met to my business and get them started even if they are thousands of miles away.  It is really amazing.

How many success stories

do you have to hear, before you decide

to write your own?

I know, there are still a lot of doubters out there.

“Those things never work!”  “That’s one of those pyramid schemes.”    “Only the people that got in the company at the ground floor ever get to the top.”


I am here to tell you – none of those are true.




Let me tell you about a young woman who, at the age of 19, took a chance.   She lives in the United Kingdom and joined  up with a friend who told her about a business.  The opportunity excited her – she jumped in with both feet and knew she had found a way to help herself and others.  She knew there were alot of young women and men that were struggling and couldn’t find decent jobs.  At the age of 21, this girl has reached the 3rd level in her company and has helped several other young women begin to dream and really live.  The oldest person on her team is 23 years of age.  Just recently she was rewarded with a grand celebration and a Mercedes Benz – paid for by her company.  So yes, it really does work – if you work.

So – any thoughts?  I would love to hear what you readers think about network marketing.

Comment with questions or opinions.  If you are a successful networker, share your story.  If you are a “Millennial”  let me know if you agree.



Don’t go broke building your business!

success+quote+hd+wallpaper[1]I am passionate about helping others succeed through owning their own business.  My joy truly comes from seeing their successes and watching them grow and become leaders.  It is the true evidence of “the ripple effect”.

One tells one, tells one, tells one – you never really know whose life you will touch and change through your journey.   You also never know whose life might be completely different if you were to quit.  Someone you have never met may be searching for something that your business can indirectly bring to them.

Don’t Quit!  You don’t even know who may be counting on you to help them!

One of the things I have noticed while coaching others and researching different aspects of business, is that there are a lot of people out there competing for business with the start-up entrepreneur market.  It is very tempting to reach out for any promises of quick business growth when you first start out.  Unfortunately, there are no short cuts, no substitution for hard work and relationship building.  I teach my business builders to follow a system within their team – it has worked for those that have succeeded before them.  Usually the system has been adjusted and/or improved as those that have been through it find out what does and doesn’t work.  Don’t waste your time re-inventing the wheel – take advantage of what others in your industry have learned along the way.

Do You Need a Business Coach?

Sure, anyone can benefit from a business coach.  Now that doesn’t mean you have to pay thousands of dollars for that business coach. There are quite a few well known and expensive business coaches you see out there. They tell you how he/she can show you a system that will get you hundreds of customers in a short time.  They tell you how it has worked for them.   They have made millions and couldn’t believe it!  Oh how it changed their lives,  and are now they are willing to share their secrets with you.   By the way – they say “check out this other program – my friend has agreed to give you his tips also when you purchase my program”.  It is always an incredible value.

Sound familiar?   There are so many people out there marketing programs to help network marketers.  I actually think it is funny.  So many people think so negatively about network marketers.  Network marketing, or direct selling, has become a huge profession and those who do it right are very proud of what they do.  The network marketing industry is a fast growing industry and is creating quite a few millionaires. Now others have figured out how to get rich by marketing to network marketers.  Wow! It’s crazy how there are so many people who just wait to take advantage of others.

Don’t get me wrong, there are some excellent business coaches out there.  They aren’t the ones you hear about all over the Internet.  The best business coach would be someone who is helping others in your specific company and team.  It should be someone who knows your business and the products you promote.  The best thing to do is find mentors in your business area.  Find someone who you look up to who has been successful and study them.  If you study enough leaders you often find that they have a lot of similar characteristics.  Please, never spend thousands of dollars for a coach who you never get to work with personally and who is “coaching” hundreds (if not thousands) of others at the same time. You can recognize them – they all look pretty much the same – flashy smiles, gorgeous designer clothes, they are always happy and laughing – they tell about their travels and post on social media from glamorous places.  If you listen closely – you may notice that they all say similar things.  They have “branded” themselves and studied what people are attracted to.   Yes, they are good business people – they know marketing and industry trends. They study!  They network!

So, a word of caution regarding all those “business coaches”  and “internet marketing experts”.   Visit one of their websites.  Read through their offers.  They usually have to do with offering you something for free in exchange for your email.  Then you will receive daily emails telling you about free webinars or other giveaways.  After you have gotten several “free” lists or articles of advice then they will offer a “rarely available university, academy or seminar that is a phenomenal value”.  They start to reel you in.   Sound familiar?   Maybe you actually purchased one of these trainings, academies, seminars.  Funny thing is – what you learn in these programs, is how to develop and repeat the process you just got reeled in through.

Save your money, invest in your business and your products.  If you aren’t succeeding don’t think you can buy success.  Here are a few tips that work for every business and everybody.

  1.  There is no get rich quick scheme.  Unless you win the lottery, you will have to put in time and effort to build your business.

  2.  You must believe in your product and yourself.  If you don’t – why would anyone else?

  3. Study great leaders and successful business people.  Read the books they have written.  Work on self-development everyday.  You have to grow yourself in order to maximize your success, leadership skills and influence.

  4. Dream big – have a huge vision that will drive you and motivate you.  Believe in your vision – see yourself succeeding.  Speak success and remain positive.  Remember, nothing positive comes from a negative mind.

Everyday I do a few things:  Pray and thank God for my blessings – Read something for self growth or leadership – talk to people, make new relationships.

shellSuccess is a series of habits, repeated daily.

I hope this post has been helpful to you.  Also, I do hope that you will continue to press on – so many people quit just before they reach success.  If you plant the seeds it takes time and tending for them to produce.

Please comment with any thoughts – I love to know that my posts help or at least get you thinking.  I don’t even mind if you challenge my ideas.    Best wishes – BELIEVE!