Recently someone posed a question to me – should I be living for happiness or contentment? Without thinking, I answered, “happiness of course!”
It seems contentment has become somewhat of a disease, at least in the United States. I see people everyday – traveling down the same packed freeway, going to the same office, following the same routine and then going home at night exhausted. That doesn’t sound like happiness to me. It sounds like comfortable. We get comfortable in a routine – it feels safe, there is no challenge and therefore no fear. We are content – and we survive. The problem with that?
We are meant to THRIVE not just survive.
If you google the following quote by O. Woodward, “Success begins on the Other Side of Your Comfort Zone” you will get thousands of results. It is an often quoted phrase for bloggers, motivational speakers and business coaches. That is because it is true! We need to do something different, change something, take action . . . . .step out of our comfort zone . . . . . in order to achieve anything.
So what stops us? What makes us accept comfortable over happy?
I think we have become so programmed to accept the status quo and seek contentment that we have lost the motivation to pursue anything more. It is scary to take risks – like quitting a job that makes you miserable, moving to a new place just because you want to experience a new environment, or approaching a stranger “just to talk”. But you know what? People who are successful in life are people who refuse to let fear stop them from anything. They are adventurers, never afraid to try something new.
They Aren’t Afraid to Fail
I have always told my kids – if you want something – go after it. The only person who is really a failure is the person who never tries. (I don’t know who first said that, but my mother used to say it to me all the time.) If there is something you really want to do – you research it, you dream about it, you talk to others about it. You get excited about the prospect of doing something new! Then one or more people start talking about the negatives – “oh, that will not work”
“oh that sounds risky”,
“oh I would be too afraid to do that”.
And there you go – now you start to worry – fear creeps in and you give up on that new adventure. You probably think about that every once in a while and wonder – “but what if I had tried?”
I want you to write these statements on a note card. Post that card on your bathroom mirror, on your computer at work, somewhere you will see it EVERYDAY.
I deserve to be happy!
I was created to live in abundance!
Contentment is a comfortable life, but I want more!
FEAR is only False Evidence Appearing Real and I will not let it stop me from living the life I dream of!
I am great! I choose to have a positive attitude today and I am making a difference in this world!
You can add any additional statements that you feel motivated by. Now, you have to read these statements, out loud, with conviction and believe them! Do it everyday! Do it twice, three times a day! I know you will notice a difference in your life! Please – come back and let me know if you try my suggestion and what happened. Take care – live life to the fullest, always seek happiness and encourage others. Success is yours, if you go after it. Now go out there and be a role model for someone else!
Remember – you are great! Thrive, don’t just survive – deb